Nivin Pauly wife Rinna Joy is a perfect fit for the famous saying ‘behind every man’s success there is a woman’. Nivin Pauly is Malayalam cinema’s latest reigning youth sensation, with a slew of new age blockbusters under his (metaphorical) belt, from the romantic Thattahin Marayathu to thrillers like Neram, the epic 1983 and the cult Bangalore Days. The romantic movie Premam, is running away to become one of Malayalam cinemas biggest grossers, ever. And the Action hero biju is a realistic portrayal of a cop’s life, in contrast to the macho appearance seen usually in action movies. His latest, Jacobinte swargarajyam set against the backdrop of Dubai, this film is all about family and relationships.
Nivin Pauly did not start out as a superstar nor was he born with a silver spoon in his mouth. He was one of us, the regular middle class boy-next-door like the characters he plays in his movies, a run-off-the-mill Btech victim from FISAT, a run-off-the-mill engineering college owned by Federal Bank in Aluva near Ernakulam, Kerala. He lived a pretty mundane Btech-guy-life, doing all the mundane things Btech students usually do. And then like any other Btech person he mundanely joined an IT company, Infosys nonetheless, along with some guys and girls from his batch. After working for a couple of years for said software sweatshop in the so-called Silicon Valley of India (where “silicon” refers to all the dust in the air thanks to the gazillion vehicles on its roads), he realized(like many of us do these days) that he was not really cut out for that meaningless life and decided to call it quits to pursue his real calling – to become an actor in Malayalam cinema.
He landed himself a role in Vineeth Sreenivasan’s ensemble Malarvadi Arts Club , then went on to Thattathin Marayathu – and the rest is history. He went for audition for Malarvadi with a broken leg and just after his father’s death. Nivin Pauly stuck it out, and it paid off.
Quitting a cushy job to pursue one’s dream is almost a cliche today. It takes not just balls but also enormous amount of support, especially from family, and that was where Nivin was lucky. He had a close-knit friends circle in college, some of whom also joined Infosys along with him. And among them all along was a girl of his religion and caste, and by being friends for such a long time they of course ended up being together.
BEING NIVIN PAULY WIFE – HOW IT BEGUN:
Rinna and Nivin met when they were B. Tech students at the Federal Institute of Science and Technology at Kochi. “We became friends very casually,” says Nivin Pauly wife Rinna. “We were part of a large group of friends who went for movies and outings together.” After their studies, they worked together in Infosys, Bangalore. “There was a silent understanding that we liked each other,” says Rinna. “There was no formal ‘I love you’.” The actor is still clueless about what quality attracted Rinna towards him. When he was asked how a class topper fell in love with a backbencher like him, Nivin funnily replied that it is easy to balance the relationship if both are two extremes. When it comes to Rinna, the quality of her which attracted Nivin the most, is her understanding nature. The actor recalls that Rinna was the biggest pillar of strength during his struggle period.
Nivin felt bored with his job, gave it up, and returned to Aluva. He had no idea what to do, although there was an underlying interest in acting. After resigning the job in Infosys, Nivin was unemployed for almost two years, before making his acting debut. At that time, Rinna has never complained about his situation and has motivated him to follow his passion.
Nivin Pauly remarks that Rinna is matured enough to understand his busy schedules, as she knows his passion for cinema, more than others. He also added that his wife is his best friend. It was then that he got a break in Vineeth Srinivasan’s Malarvadi Arts Club. Thereafter, he began to get roles steadily and most of the films have become hits: Thattathin Marayathu, Neram, 1983 and Om Shanti Oshana.
Nivin and Rinna were expecting to spend a quiet night at the former’s home after their marriage on August 28, 2010, at the St Dominic’s Church at Aluva. But a group of relatives and friends, including actors like Wilson Joseph and Aju Varghese, and director Alphonse, had other plans. Firstly, the couple were told to look for the bedroom keys. And so, Nivin and Rinna searched all over the house, but to no avail. Finally, through various clues, Nivin was able to take it out from the trouser pocket of Wilson. When they entered the bedroom, they found it filled with balloons, small pieces of glitter and crepe paper. After they had cleared the bed, and were beginning to relax, the clock tolled at midnight. Suddenly, there was a loud sound outside the door. When a nervous Nivin opened the door, his friends laughed out aloud. They had burst crackers. “It was an unforgettable experience,” says Nivin Pauly wife Rinna.
As the wife of an actor, it is no surprise that Rinna is a sounding board for Nivin regarding future roles and scripts ideas. “I usually react with my intuition, although I don’t know much about movies,” says Rinna. “But finally, it is Nivin who decides whether to take the role or not.”When asked about his plus points, Rinna says, “Nivin is an understanding person and is a family man. He loves to spend time with me and our five-year-old son, Dhaveedh (Malayalam version of David).”
In fact, the birth of Dhaveedh was the highlight of Nivin’s life. “Nivin looked so happy when he held the baby in his arms,” says Rinna. “He had not held a small baby before. In fact, he often tells me that Dhaveedh is his good-luck charm. After he was born, Nivin got many roles and did well. My son loves Nivin more than me.”
So enamoured is Dhaveedh of his father that when he awakens every morning, and realises that his father is not at home, he will immediately ask Rinna to play the CD of Malarvadi Arts Club. “Dhaveedh has seen the film so many times, he knows it by heart,” says Nivin Pauly wife Rinna. “He will say, ‘Next scene Appa will be coming. Appa will do this. That uncle will do this’.”
For the 100th day celebrations of Om Shanti Oshana, Nivin and Rinna took Dhaveedh to a theatre at Thiruvananthapuram to see it. “He was thrilled,” says Rinna. “Dhaveedh was clapping, and saying, ‘Appa, appa’.”
Thanks to several hits, Nivin has become a much-in-demand actor in Mollywood. So, he is busy shooting most of the time. But after fifteen days on a shoot, he begins to miss Dhaveedh. So Rinna takes their son to the sets. “We went to Indiranagar, in Bangalore, to watch the shoot of Bangalore Days,” says Nivin Pauly wife Rinna.
And the shoot was a happy time for Rinna. “After a long time, I saw Nivin having a lot of fun, laughing and joking, like he used to do in college. All the actors and the crew were pulling each other’s legs. There was a nice rapport, because everybody is more or less of the same age: Dulquer Salmaan Fahadh Faasil, Nazriya Nazim, Isha Talwar, Parvathy and Anjali Menon.”
Meanwhile, for Nivin Pauly wife Rinna, the only thing that upsets her about Nivin is that even when he is at home, he gets calls all the time or is attending meetings. “The one-on- one time with the family is becoming less,” she says.
In fact, the only time Rinna had Nivin all to herself was when they went for a holiday to Singapore, a few months after the marriage. “We relaxed and loafed around,” she says. “We travelled on the Metro and saw many tourist sites.”
Thus far, the major change in their marriage is that Nivin has become famous. So, people recognise the couple when they go out. “They come up to talk and take photos,” says Rinna. “Some fans even come home.”
It is a large bungalow at Aluva built by Nivin’s late father Pauly Bonaventure, who spent many years in Switzerland. And to add a touch of glamour, there is a black Audi parked in the driveway. Incidentally, Nivin’s mother stays with them.
Finally, Nivin Pauly wife Rinna has this to say about successful marriages. “A couple needs to spend time with each other, share their thoughts and feelings, and have a mutualrespect,” she says. “It is also important to listen to your partner.”